Sunday, July 16, 2017

A blog about Surrogacy/IVF Medicines

Just thought I would update with a timely medication blog.  I started the progesterone shots on Thursday and will continue these daily until about 10 weeks.  So I wanted to share information about the medications that  surrogates may find themselves on during an IVF Cycle.  Just as a disclaimer, I am not a Reproductive Endocrinologist.  I am just a surrogate who has been around the medication a few times.

Necessary Medications:
Birth Control
Lupron
Estrogen
Progesterone

Routes of Medication:
Patch
Oral
Vaginal
Injections

Birth Control Pills are necessary to quiet the ovaries.  When doing IVF, they have a specific date in mind that they want to keep your ovaries from taking over and producing the hormones that they are using to alter your cycle.  The doctor wants ovaries with small follicles on them and the birth control can also help to reduce fluid that is in the uterus. You will usually be on this medication for  Cycle Day (CD) 1-16 or the entire pack until you start your next cycle -- the next cycle meaning the one that you will use to transfer the embryo.

Lupron injections are also used to suppress ovulation.  It can be used or fresh or frozen embryo transfer, but generally used on fresh transfers because they need to get the surrogate's cycle synced with the Intended Mother or Egg Donor.  This medication is crazy expensive and rarely covered by insurances.  It is also called Loopy Lupron because it gives this foggy state of mind.  It can be used for frozen cycles when the surrogate's ovaries are not suppressed with just birth control and estrogen and also if there is free fluid inside the uterus that would not be an ideal environment for an embryo to snuggle in. - I am not familiar with the dates this is used as I have only done frozen transfers.

Estrogen is used to further silence your ovaries.   It also builds up that lining that the embryo will be snuggling into.  Estrogen is started anywhere between CD1-4 usually.  It is continued until week 10 of the pregnancy.  Prior to the start of the progesterone, many times women experience extreme headaches from the imbalance of hormones used to manipulate a cycle for IVF.  These headaches cannot be fixed with any over the counter efforts -- the only thing that will help is adding the progesterone in to balance out those headaches.  Estrogen can be given in many different forms.  It can be given in a patch you put on your belly or lower back as well as being taken orally.  The blue tablets can also be inserted vaginally which then creates a gross blue discharge ... Did I mention you do this for 10 weeks?  Finally, you can take estrogen in the form of injections and usually it is given twice a week or every third day. 

Progesterone is the final medication added into a cycling protocol usually. Generally it begins 5 days before IVF is to occur. When having a natural cycle, progesterone is released when the follicle cyst bursts.  Progesterone is the hormone that signals to your body to not shed it's lining yet.  When you have a sudden drop of progesterone, that is when you have your period.  Progesterone is made by the cyst of a follicle until the placenta begins to grows and then the placenta takes over the creation of progesterone. 

Progesterone is generally prescribed in 2 forms -- injection and vaginal.  Occasionally it can be given orally bit is considered less effective.

In the form of injection, progesterone is generally mixed with some form of oil -- think cooking types of oil-- sesame oil, cottonseed, ethyl oleate, and peanut oils.  The problem with injections is that some people may be allergic to the oil that is prescribed causing big itchy whelped hives.  It can also cause painful lumps from the ultra thick oil.  The needles for this are 1.5 inches long (yes the needle goes all of the way into your muscle up to the plastic) and you must have an injection every night for about 8 weeks (until you are 10 weeks pregnant usually).  Many surrogates have reported painful lumps after having injections for weeks and surrogates sometimes report nerve damage years later.  More recently, the pharmaceutical industry is trying to create a subcutaneous progesterone injection that is water based which means less allergic reactions and less lumps

In the case of vaginal insertion for progesterone, there are a few options.  Crinone is a gel that is inserted into the vagina.  Suppositories or pessaries are also used.  One specific brand is endometrin.  When I was on this protocol in the past, I had to have 3 vaginal suppositories a day.  These suppositories are $12+ per dose so $36 per day or about $2000 per cycle and insurance will not cover this often.  Whereas Progesterone injections and syringes are often covered by most insurances with no copay. Aside from that, what goes in, must come out.  With suppositories, you are leaky every single day, all day for 8 weeks.  Many people also end up having some type of reaction or have vaginal infections from the suppositories.




But Melanie, why are you telling us all of this!?  Well because many times people ask me about surrogacy and I think people think about the end result but forget how the surrogates get there.  It is not an easy process.  If you don't like needles, this may not be for you.  If you cannot commit to taking medication every single day at the same time, sometimes multiple times a day, then this is not the journey for you.  If you would rely on the money made from surrogacy to live day to day, this is not the journey for you.  If you aren't ready to say "I am done growing my family" this may not be for you.  These synthetic hormones can really screw up a body and make it so you have secondary infertility where the woman cannot conceive in the future. Do you want that for your future?  These are all things that other people won't tell you about -- but I will.  Surrogacy itself is a beautiful journey.  The end result is beautiful.  But not everything about the journey is glamorous. 

Do you have questions for me about surrogacy?


Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Transfer Date Changed



Before we get to the good stuff, I thought it might be good to give a little run down of embryo making options.

To make a baby, you need sperm and you need an egg.  4th grade health 101 right? 

For this surrogacy, there are two men.  Two dads.  We have the sperm part covered. 

But Melanie, which dad is using his sperm?  Well we plan on doing a sibling journey in the future so one will create embryos now and one will create embryos later.  It doesn't matter who the first biological dad is because they will become daddies at the same time to the same baby. And again when that baby has a brother or sister.

But where do eggs come from with surrogacy?  Is it your egg Melanie?

Not this time.  There are two different types of surrogates.  Traditional and Gestational.  Traditional surrogates use their own egg and IUIs or home insemination (this does not involve sex!)  Gestational surrogates have an embryo transferred into their uterus.

In order to prepare a uterus for a cycle, a surrogate must suppress her ovaries -- this either happens with birth control, Lupron or estrogen.  Different doctors have different protocols.  The quiet ovaries allow the uterus to accept this precious little embryo easier.

The embryos can come from a lot of different methods.  If you have a traditional couple, the eggs may come from the mother if she is able to produce viable eggs.  Otherwise you can find a known or anonymous egg donor or you can get eggs from a frozen egg bank.  Finally you can also adopt embryos (known or anonymous) where neither parent will have a biological connection with the baby that is born <--- this in no way makes the parents any less of parents -- biology does not make parents.

The options that Intended Fathers have don't include producing eggs so they have to choose which route they will go.  We have been matched for about 18 months with the anticipation of transferring around November/December 2016.  As you see that date came and went and we are still... anticipating?!

Finally they selected a donor to do a fresh cycle.  Once the embryos are created we could do a fresh transfer or they could freeze the embryos and then thaw them to transfer them at a later date.  There are benefits of each.  The fresh is said to have slightly higher statistics for success - but that has changed more recently because the frozen allows the doctor to continue working with the lining of the uterus that the embryo will be transferred to so now the success rates are virtually the same.  We were set to move forward then the donor had a family emergency and was out of town.  Never contacted the clinic to schedule when she came back in town.  We were at the mercy of a donor to move forward with the cycle.

Finally, they decided to use frozen eggs.  These eggs are ready to be thawed, injected with a sperm.  Fertilized and left to grow before being transferred into my willing and ready uterus.  The downside is that the success rates with frozen donor eggs is not high at all.  The upside -- the eggs are ready to be thawed and create embryos.  They are opting to use frozen eggs now and a fresh retrieval soon with the same donor for future embryo use.

So with all of this being said -- our transfer date changed.  It had to because the eggs need to be thawed on a Thursday or Friday to be fertilized due to the lab protocols.  So that means I start progesterone this Thursday when they thaw the eggs and transfer is moved up to Tuesday, July 18,  Like a WEEK FROM TODAY.  It just seems like it all sneaked up on me!  It seemed so distant in the future until it fell flat on my lap.  

So wish us luck.  Pray for my butt for these progesterone shots.  And think positive and sticky thoughts!


Monday, July 10, 2017

Lining Check - Transfer Scheduled!

Today I traveled down to Richmond to get a lining check completed by the fertility doctor.

As always, we surrogates take the prerequisite weenie wand and exam room set up photos. 


The exam was perfect.  On CD11 of this cycle, we have a 9mm lining.  My ovaries were quiet and suppressed -- a lot of follicles -- so many so that the doctor asked me how old I was because I had a lot of follicles/eggs for a 34 year old.


With all of this good news, we have our transfer set up for next Thursday, July 20.  Sounds like a good day for a baby to snuggle in! 

Monday, June 26, 2017

Good things come to those who wait! Surrogacy and Life Update

Usually I wouldn't agree with these sentiments.  Usually I would say "Good things come to those who wait go out there and work hard for it!" 

Finally, things are moving along with surrogacy.  Finally.  I repeat that.  Finally.  I have been matched with C&E for 16 months now.  We had anticipated cycling somewhere around November/December 2016.  Life happened.  Something happened -- not sure what except that we know a lot of time happened.  The guys selected a donor that was perfect for them. The first one wasn't available so they chose another one.  Then she had a family emergency and contact was terrible at best.  Finally she got back in touch with the clinic and she is going to do a fresh cycle sometime this summer but while we are waiting, they chose to use her frozen eggs in the bank so we could expedite this cycle.

We finished contracts in May and we should be starting estrogen injections next week sometime with around July 21 (that is just a guess -- depends on when my cycle starts and how the embryos are growing).  So yay -- the cycle is on the horizon.

Also, business is booming.  I have been so busy writing blogs for work that I have neglected this blog -- but if you want to read about whats going on with Stars & Stripes Doulas, check out our blog.  Lots of good reads on there.  We have even expanded to 3 other chapters and hopefully soon a 4th chapter in addition to the Home Chapter of Washington DC.

As a run down of some other things that have happened in the last few weeks.

Sweet Aggy is now 18 months!  That is hard to believe.  She is big and I love the occasional emails of photos or videos her parents send me.  There is nothing quite like the feeling you get when you see the two parents that have become a family with the little baby you carried (who is not a little baby anymore!!)

In May, I graduated with Honors from American Military University.  I received my Bachelors in Emergency & Disaster Management with a minor in Intelligence Studies.  This degree took some serious determination and resiliency.  There were many times I wanted to quit.  But I didn't.  My story was even told by the President of APUS during commencement.  She mentioned me by name and told my story about being a military spouse -- my story is not unique, but I am glad that she told my story because in that, she told so many other military spouses' stories!



My husband (an instructor at AMU) and me right before I walked!
That same week, I was invited to the Governor's Mansion in Richmond for the Heroes At Home reception with Governor McAuliffe and his wife Dorothy.   I had already been to the Northern Virginia Military Spouse appreciation luncheon where I was nominated for the Northern Virginia Spouse of the year.  What I didn't know is that I would be awarded the Heroes at Home Virginia Marine Corps Spouse of the Year for 2017.  What an honor!



Next up came the Girls Graduation Cruise to Bermuda.  I was able to get away for a week with my friends Diana and Melissa and just enjoy the beauty and relaxation of a cruise and of Bermuda.  I cannot rave enough about my husband for caring for the kids while I got away for a week to celebrate my graduation!



Finally,  we just got back from a quick trip to Atlanta.  By quick, I mean we drove halfway down on Thursday, we were there Friday & Saturday and drove home Sunday.  We went down to watch some Brewers baseball.  But in there, in all of the testosterone induced feelings about baseball, I had one request.  It was to see my former IFs from 6 years ago!  Remember them?  I could never forget them.  After 6 medicated IUIs, we were never successful but their dreams of becoming parents never left my heart.  I wanted to bad to help their dream become a reality and we stayed close friends over the years.  I was even able to help them find donor embryos which created their beautiful little girl Chrissy.  We only got to catch lunch with them and see their amazing house, but somehow, it completed something inside of me.  I may not have been their surrogate, but the pride I felt seeing them just dote on their precious girl is immeasurable.  I cannot even tell you how seeing them and her made me feel.  They thanked me many times and said that I had a huge part in their journey to fatherhood.  It feels minute what I did, honestly it does.  I am just so glad I got to see it come full circle.  It was amazing to see them again.  Leah has decided she wants to be a big sister to another baby just like the happy and never crying Chrissy.  Or she wants to live with S&F and Chrissy during the summers and be their babysitter!





With that, I will update as the cycle progresses -- on with the shots!!


Thursday, February 2, 2017

I was nominated for Military Spouse of the Year!

How fantastic is that?  I would love it if you could click on my link and vote for me pretty please!  It will help our business to get the recognition to start a foundation that benefits Wounded Warrior families with their transition from labor to the postpartum period!  My Bio is here -- Please take a moment to read it!

Also, we are officially in the contract phase! 60 glorious pages of fun right here!  Actually it wasn't that bad reviewing the contract.  There weren't many pages noted for changes.  We are in a holding pattern right now waiting to hear back from the egg donor, but hopefully soon, I will have some dates to talk about! 

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Aggy, Surrogacy and Business Update!



Just a little update! 
 
I got some darling photos of sweet baby (who isn’t so much a baby anymore!) Aggy between Thanksgiving and Christmas.  She is now over a year old and is walking.  It is evident that her parents love her very very much.  I love seeing them together as a family!  I never thought to ask if I could show a photo of her, so I won’t do that at this time, but maybe soon I will ask if it is okay!   I am also just about weaned making just about 10 ounces a day.  I have pumped and donated about 24,000 ounces since Aggy was born!  Feels good knowing I have helped multiple families all over the country (and world if you count Aggy's start!) with pumping. I am sad to see this chapter close, but excited for the new book we are about to write with the next journey.
 
Speaking of the next surrogacy journey, it is in the works.  I am matched with a local Intended Father Couple and its been great because we have been able to get together every few weeks lately to just hang out or iron out things like insurance and contracts.  I went to the clinic on January 10 and got the green light to transfer in about 2 months as long as all of the egg donor stuff and contracts are done.  Right now I am just waiting to hear back from the clinic about starting birth control as the plan of frozen donor eggs might turn to a plan of a fresh embryo transfer which would mean different medications to sync up cycles. 



Also, I haven’t really mentioned it that much here, but remember crying doula?  We decided to open a new doula business together and we have been rocking it!  We were both serving the same clients and working back up for each other, so it was only natural to go ahead and take the leap and create a business together.  We rolled out the idea of Stars and Stripes Doulas in early December.  Logo creation, website design and all of the other things that go with it have been insane.  We are just about done with our website now.  We started our online presence with Facebook and Instagram, thinking that we would just start that and get some followers, but what happened is there is a huge market for military families and our business took off before we even had our website officially up!  I can't wait to take my blogging voice over to the Stars & Stripes Doulas website to add some humor to some of the subjects that parents need to read about!   We love that we have been busy and we have been honored with serving the best families!   Being labor and postpartum doulas in the Northern Virginia area is so rewarding as we feel valued!  Watch us, we are doing great things!

Thursday, November 17, 2016

World Prematurity Day!

To all of the parents out there who have held their small and fragile babies, I salute you. I have had 3 of my own full term healthy babies and of course baby Aggy who was also term and very healthy!  I cannot imagine the way that it feels leaving your sweet baby behind at the hospital to go home and focus on the rest of your family or to return to work.  To wonder how your baby's health status will change by the day, hour, or even moment. 

I am honored to be a human milk donor to Prolacta Bioscience and today, at 11 months postpartum, I have donated about 22,000 oz (that is 168 gallons!) of milk to Prolacta.  Because of this milk that I send, and many other donors, these micropreemies are having much better outcomes! 

Photo Credit -- Prolacta Bioscience


Check out this VIDEO by Prolacta that shows a sweet little premature baby's journey from being born at 13 inches and 1lb 8oz at less than 24 weeks to the toddler that she is now!

Also as another note, Happy 11th Month Birthday Aggy!  I often get asked how she and her family is doing.  With a nearly one year old baby, I am sure they are quite busy with life and loving a cuddly and most likely squirmy baby but I haven't heard from them in three months.  My answer usually is "I am sure they are doing wonderfully!  They are just busy as parents of babies are!"  I do miss hearing from them and seeing photos, but as surrogacy goes, contact is never guaranteed post birth!  I am happy for the wonderful memories we shared together!  It was actually 2 years from today that we met in person for the first time too!  (I have a keen memory for details like that!)

So wherever you are Aggy, I hope you are celebrating!  I can't believe you are almost a year old!!