Monday, July 24, 2017

A follow up on the positive digital test.... And an explanation about TWINS and 5 day embryos

You didn't think I quit peeing after getting my positive did you?



Just a few progression photos.  They are getting darker with each test which means my HCG is increasing which is exactly what we want. 

So speaking of HCG, our blood test is on Friday.  With that test, it will tell us how much HCG is in my system and the doubling rate shows if the pregnancy is considered healthy.  If the test started showing positive on Friday, we can theorize that the level was about 20.  The standard doubling rate for HCG is every 48 hours.  That means that by Sunday it would be 40, Tuesday 80, Thursday 160 and Friday around 240.  These are all guesses and the first number is not indicative of anything except PREGNANT.  When you get your next number, it should be doubling in about 48 hours.  So the test for this pregnancy will be on Monday which is 3 days later.  The speed of doubling can be indicative of twins too.  If you double much faster than 48 hours, it could mean you are carrying twins -- but it would mean fraternal twins which isn't a possibility with this pregnancy.

Fraternal twins means TWO eggs were fertilized.  Since we only had one embryo transferred, that is not possible.

So let me give you a little anatomy lesson as to why my early positive tests are not indicative of a 4 letter word (TWIN) pregnancy. 


We transferred a 5 day blast.  DI/DI twins are cleaved at the morula stage-- 1 to 3 days after fertilization.  With this type of identical twins, there are two sacs, two placentas.  Placentas make the HCG.  This type of identical twins would have high level of HCG produced in early pregnancy.  Mo/Di twins would be possible for this type of embryo transfer since the blast cleaves at days 4-8.  these types of identical twins have a separation in their sac but they share a placenta.  Mo/mo twins cleave days 8-13 and the twins share the same sac of water and the same placenta.

So theoretically, we have a really strong embryo that is hanging on tight so that is why our tests are so beautiful.  We won't have an ultrasound until 7 weeks. 

If you think I have seen enough positive pregnancy tests, you're wrong!


So I have all of these tests I have done... but it is still not enough -- look at how many I have left to go! 


Sunday, July 23, 2017

Digital Test Video -- But it is still early.




You know what makes me nervous?  Doing digital tests.  Nothing worse than spending $7 on a test that is negative.  It is the nature of surrogacy and IVF.  You need to see the word "pregnant" for it to be real.  But let's be real, it is still early.  This test was taken at 4.75dp5dt (4.75 days past a 5 day transfer) or 9.75dpo (days past ovulation).  Digital tests aren't sensitive at all.  But I can't help but continue to pee on all sticks -- even when they show up negative.

Other side notes, I have a tripod, why didn't I use it?  This video makes me dizzy.

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Post Transfer Update

 Today was transfer day and it couldn't have gone any better!  C&E came over to my house first thing this morning and gave me a gorgeous bouquet of flowers and a nice little thank you card and we rode down to Richmond together where we took a pit stop to Nonnie's house to drop the kids off.  But first, E&C got roped into playing with the kids before leaving.  The kids gave a whole tour of the garden and the chickens and they went to the pond to skip rocks and played on the swing.

I got this little Willow Tree Figurine with a card.  I was trying to come up with something sentimental and symbolic when I saw this and I knew it was perfect.  It is a little boy holding a small plant.  This plant grew from a seed and one day will be something amazing and big.  On the box it said "The gesture of this piece, something special, is on e of protection and caring for something precious, our children... I see it as a piece about possibilities." 
We got to the clinic on time and I quickly got undressed for the nurse to come in and check the visibility of the uterus on ultrasound.  The nurse commented on how beautiful the lining was. You have to have a full bladder for this procedure -- but mine was painfully full so they let me relieve some.  Came back and waited for Dr. Steingold.  He came in and we went over consents and got the news of the embryos which was fantastic!

The white line going through the middle of the uterus is the center of the lining




The one we transferred was a 4BA grade which was nearly perfect.  Each of the dads made embryos and out of the 15 eggs that fertilized on Friday, there is a possibility of the one we transferred plus 3 from one of the dads and 4 from the other dad.  So that means that 7 may be frozen -- they are growing them out a little bit longer before making the determination of their grades.

The Beautiful Embryo Transferred
After we talked about consents, they called the lab for the embryos to come in via isolette -- truly a beeping incubator.  The guys were able to check out their embryo under microscope while the Doctor performed a mock transfer to make sure all went well with an empty catheter passing through the cervix.  The worst part of the entire transfer is the speculum putting intense pressure on an already full bladder.  Then the Transfer happened in just a few seconds.  The doctor puts the catheter through the cervix and says "This looks like a good spot -- Everyone in agreement?" Embryologist agrees, nurse agrees.  Then the embryo is released.  Count to 10 then slowly draw the catheter out so that it doesn't create a vacuum and bring the embryo with it.

Not a great photo - was taken from the procedure table


The white dots to the left and right of the embryo is the air that surrounds the embryo in the catheter.  It is hard to see the actual embryo, but when you see the video of the transfer, you see the white dots of air bubbles instead.
Next comes the 15 minute wait that feels like 2 hours because your bladder is so full it hurts... tick tock tick tock.

After that, we snapped a photo on our way out!

E Left in photo, C right in photo
We were all starving by this point and we went around the corner and got PF Changs.  What is good Chinese without a fortune cookie?  Check out C's fortune

Hopefully it is a positive pregnancy test!
Speaking of pregnancy tests -- I think I am ready for this cycle.  I won't probably see anything positive until Sunday would be a safe guess.  But don't start pressuring me to start early -- No need to, I will probably already be testing.  The guys want to know if I get a positive so hopefully the anticipation doesn't kill us all!

This is totally a normal amount of pregnancy tests for one cycle for a surrogate I promise!  Some are expired so you can't trust them. Some are blue dye tests, so you cant trust them.  Basically I am out of practice peeing on tests so I need a lot to practice on!
Finally, I got home and we all hung out in the yard for a bit.  E showed the kids that he could do cartwheels (He will be paying for that tomorrow! lol)  C was throwing baseballs with Weston.  So they will fit nicely into the family life very soon.  E says his mom is so ready for grandkids so he will be sharing the transfer video with her.  I came in the house, had dinner and kicked my feet up for a bit.  Of course I had to wear my stork leggings for the transfer -- it's a good omen for what is to come -- me delivering a baby for them! 



Now off to bed because as I was laying on the table waiting for transfer, my phone was ringing over and over.  Turns out a client is in labor today so I will be heading off to a birth overnight.  I hope that is another good omen!  Babies, Babies Everywhere!

Sunday, July 16, 2017

A blog about Surrogacy/IVF Medicines

Just thought I would update with a timely medication blog.  I started the progesterone shots on Thursday and will continue these daily until about 10 weeks.  So I wanted to share information about the medications that  surrogates may find themselves on during an IVF Cycle.  Just as a disclaimer, I am not a Reproductive Endocrinologist.  I am just a surrogate who has been around the medication a few times.

Necessary Medications:
Birth Control
Lupron
Estrogen
Progesterone

Routes of Medication:
Patch
Oral
Vaginal
Injections

Birth Control Pills are necessary to quiet the ovaries.  When doing IVF, they have a specific date in mind that they want to keep your ovaries from taking over and producing the hormones that they are using to alter your cycle.  The doctor wants ovaries with small follicles on them and the birth control can also help to reduce fluid that is in the uterus. You will usually be on this medication for  Cycle Day (CD) 1-16 or the entire pack until you start your next cycle -- the next cycle meaning the one that you will use to transfer the embryo.

Lupron injections are also used to suppress ovulation.  It can be used or fresh or frozen embryo transfer, but generally used on fresh transfers because they need to get the surrogate's cycle synced with the Intended Mother or Egg Donor.  This medication is crazy expensive and rarely covered by insurances.  It is also called Loopy Lupron because it gives this foggy state of mind.  It can be used for frozen cycles when the surrogate's ovaries are not suppressed with just birth control and estrogen and also if there is free fluid inside the uterus that would not be an ideal environment for an embryo to snuggle in. - I am not familiar with the dates this is used as I have only done frozen transfers.

Estrogen is used to further silence your ovaries.   It also builds up that lining that the embryo will be snuggling into.  Estrogen is started anywhere between CD1-4 usually.  It is continued until week 10 of the pregnancy.  Prior to the start of the progesterone, many times women experience extreme headaches from the imbalance of hormones used to manipulate a cycle for IVF.  These headaches cannot be fixed with any over the counter efforts -- the only thing that will help is adding the progesterone in to balance out those headaches.  Estrogen can be given in many different forms.  It can be given in a patch you put on your belly or lower back as well as being taken orally.  The blue tablets can also be inserted vaginally which then creates a gross blue discharge ... Did I mention you do this for 10 weeks?  Finally, you can take estrogen in the form of injections and usually it is given twice a week or every third day. 

Progesterone is the final medication added into a cycling protocol usually. Generally it begins 5 days before IVF is to occur. When having a natural cycle, progesterone is released when the follicle cyst bursts.  Progesterone is the hormone that signals to your body to not shed it's lining yet.  When you have a sudden drop of progesterone, that is when you have your period.  Progesterone is made by the cyst of a follicle until the placenta begins to grows and then the placenta takes over the creation of progesterone. 

Progesterone is generally prescribed in 2 forms -- injection and vaginal.  Occasionally it can be given orally bit is considered less effective.

In the form of injection, progesterone is generally mixed with some form of oil -- think cooking types of oil-- sesame oil, cottonseed, ethyl oleate, and peanut oils.  The problem with injections is that some people may be allergic to the oil that is prescribed causing big itchy whelped hives.  It can also cause painful lumps from the ultra thick oil.  The needles for this are 1.5 inches long (yes the needle goes all of the way into your muscle up to the plastic) and you must have an injection every night for about 8 weeks (until you are 10 weeks pregnant usually).  Many surrogates have reported painful lumps after having injections for weeks and surrogates sometimes report nerve damage years later.  More recently, the pharmaceutical industry is trying to create a subcutaneous progesterone injection that is water based which means less allergic reactions and less lumps

In the case of vaginal insertion for progesterone, there are a few options.  Crinone is a gel that is inserted into the vagina.  Suppositories or pessaries are also used.  One specific brand is endometrin.  When I was on this protocol in the past, I had to have 3 vaginal suppositories a day.  These suppositories are $12+ per dose so $36 per day or about $2000 per cycle and insurance will not cover this often.  Whereas Progesterone injections and syringes are often covered by most insurances with no copay. Aside from that, what goes in, must come out.  With suppositories, you are leaky every single day, all day for 8 weeks.  Many people also end up having some type of reaction or have vaginal infections from the suppositories.




But Melanie, why are you telling us all of this!?  Well because many times people ask me about surrogacy and I think people think about the end result but forget how the surrogates get there.  It is not an easy process.  If you don't like needles, this may not be for you.  If you cannot commit to taking medication every single day at the same time, sometimes multiple times a day, then this is not the journey for you.  If you would rely on the money made from surrogacy to live day to day, this is not the journey for you.  If you aren't ready to say "I am done growing my family" this may not be for you.  These synthetic hormones can really screw up a body and make it so you have secondary infertility where the woman cannot conceive in the future. Do you want that for your future?  These are all things that other people won't tell you about -- but I will.  Surrogacy itself is a beautiful journey.  The end result is beautiful.  But not everything about the journey is glamorous. 

Do you have questions for me about surrogacy?


Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Transfer Date Changed



Before we get to the good stuff, I thought it might be good to give a little run down of embryo making options.

To make a baby, you need sperm and you need an egg.  4th grade health 101 right? 

For this surrogacy, there are two men.  Two dads.  We have the sperm part covered. 

But Melanie, which dad is using his sperm?  Well we plan on doing a sibling journey in the future so one will create embryos now and one will create embryos later.  It doesn't matter who the first biological dad is because they will become daddies at the same time to the same baby. And again when that baby has a brother or sister.

But where do eggs come from with surrogacy?  Is it your egg Melanie?

Not this time.  There are two different types of surrogates.  Traditional and Gestational.  Traditional surrogates use their own egg and IUIs or home insemination (this does not involve sex!)  Gestational surrogates have an embryo transferred into their uterus.

In order to prepare a uterus for a cycle, a surrogate must suppress her ovaries -- this either happens with birth control, Lupron or estrogen.  Different doctors have different protocols.  The quiet ovaries allow the uterus to accept this precious little embryo easier.

The embryos can come from a lot of different methods.  If you have a traditional couple, the eggs may come from the mother if she is able to produce viable eggs.  Otherwise you can find a known or anonymous egg donor or you can get eggs from a frozen egg bank.  Finally you can also adopt embryos (known or anonymous) where neither parent will have a biological connection with the baby that is born <--- this in no way makes the parents any less of parents -- biology does not make parents.

The options that Intended Fathers have don't include producing eggs so they have to choose which route they will go.  We have been matched for about 18 months with the anticipation of transferring around November/December 2016.  As you see that date came and went and we are still... anticipating?!

Finally they selected a donor to do a fresh cycle.  Once the embryos are created we could do a fresh transfer or they could freeze the embryos and then thaw them to transfer them at a later date.  There are benefits of each.  The fresh is said to have slightly higher statistics for success - but that has changed more recently because the frozen allows the doctor to continue working with the lining of the uterus that the embryo will be transferred to so now the success rates are virtually the same.  We were set to move forward then the donor had a family emergency and was out of town.  Never contacted the clinic to schedule when she came back in town.  We were at the mercy of a donor to move forward with the cycle.

Finally, they decided to use frozen eggs.  These eggs are ready to be thawed, injected with a sperm.  Fertilized and left to grow before being transferred into my willing and ready uterus.  The downside is that the success rates with frozen donor eggs is not high at all.  The upside -- the eggs are ready to be thawed and create embryos.  They are opting to use frozen eggs now and a fresh retrieval soon with the same donor for future embryo use.

So with all of this being said -- our transfer date changed.  It had to because the eggs need to be thawed on a Thursday or Friday to be fertilized due to the lab protocols.  So that means I start progesterone this Thursday when they thaw the eggs and transfer is moved up to Tuesday, July 18,  Like a WEEK FROM TODAY.  It just seems like it all sneaked up on me!  It seemed so distant in the future until it fell flat on my lap.  

So wish us luck.  Pray for my butt for these progesterone shots.  And think positive and sticky thoughts!


Monday, July 10, 2017

Lining Check - Transfer Scheduled!

Today I traveled down to Richmond to get a lining check completed by the fertility doctor.

As always, we surrogates take the prerequisite weenie wand and exam room set up photos. 


The exam was perfect.  On CD11 of this cycle, we have a 9mm lining.  My ovaries were quiet and suppressed -- a lot of follicles -- so many so that the doctor asked me how old I was because I had a lot of follicles/eggs for a 34 year old.


With all of this good news, we have our transfer set up for next Thursday, July 20.  Sounds like a good day for a baby to snuggle in!